How to Talk About Marriage With Your Boyfriend

It is often thought that men are afraid of marriage – they are already at least at a certain stage of their lives. Marriage, for them, is a big word. It is equality with the freedom that has been reduced and the age of slavery. These are ways on how to talk about marriage with your boyfriend.

Be brave and ask him

The only way you can hear a direct answer is to ask a simple and straight question. Ask him about his idea of marriage. Most men will not lie and will not hesitate to discuss what their true feelings are. Just know when and how to talk about the word m.

Talk less and listen more to what he says

Once you make him sit with you, do not start the dialogue by spoiling him for marriage to you. No man complies with such a negative approach. Instead, try to listen to his views and opinions about marriage – then you will only know whether he will marry you or that he is waiting for the right time to propose.

Communicate with your friend

Well, so you want to talk about marriage? Then you should learn to communicate effectively. Do not place a wall at all – always make sure that he can talk to you at any time, and you will not judge him if he has a different belief about the marriage.

Adjust the mood

The only way you can get a man to talk about being committed or getting married is when he is more relaxed. So why not ask him about transient marriage when he is comfortable in your living room, eating potato chips and watching a basketball game on TV?

Attend a wedding together

It can be a colleague’s wedding or your friend’s dearest – it does not really matter. What matters is to make him realize that there is more bliss than slavery in such celebrations. Let him see the faces of the bridegroom and the bride happy.

Context guides

If you do not have the courage to ask him directly, why not gather relevant information instead? Ask him what he intends to do five years from now, or what his career plans are. If his statements are full of “us” rather than “me,” you can make sure he is thinking about the future with you.

Top 10 Tips for Making the Best Cakes

Is there a secret to making great cake? Absolutely! Follow our ten commandments and let the baking magic happen…

Sticky stem ginger cake with lemon icingIf you’re a cook who can’t resist tossing in a handful of this and a sprinkle of that, you may find baking can be a bit hit and miss. Baking is an area of cookery that doesn’t take kindly to artistic licence. But follow a few basic baking rules and success is sure to follow…

1. Use a good recipe 

For guaranteed results it’s important to follow baking recipes to the letter so your cake will only ever be as good as the recipe you use. Start with a recipe from a source you trust. A lot of recipes, particularly on the internet, haven’t been tried and tested (ours have!)

2. Use the tin size stated in the recipe and line it well 

Lining cake tinIf you want to use a different one then you’ll need to adjust the cooking time.

Baking parchment works really well for lining as it’s non-stick. Softened butter dusted with flour, or oil dusted with flour, are alternatives. Don’t use too much fat though or you’ll fry the sides of the cake. If you’re cooking a cake for a long time (rich fruit cake, for example), it’s worth wrapping the outside of the tin too using brown paper and string to stop the edges from burning.

3. Preheat the oven 

If you put a cake into an oven that’s not hot enough, it will affect the way it rises. Fan ovens can dry a cake slightly so for a longer shelf-life use the conventional setting.

Scale4. Be accurate with weights and ingredients 

Make sure you use the exact measurements and ingredients as stated in the recipe. You can’t just add more baking powder if you want your cake to rise more or substitute self-raising flour for plain. Use measuring spoons rather than tablewear to ensure accuracy. Also, avoid mixing imperial and metric measurements, pick one or the other.

5. Make sure ingredients are the right temperature 

Most recipes require the fat and eggs to be at room temperature. If you take the butter straight from the fridge it doesn’t cream well and cold eggs are liable to curdle the cake mixture.

6. Get as much air into the cake as you can 

Creaming butter and sugarCream butter and sugar until the mixture lightens in texture and colour. This increases the air and volume of the cake, giving you a lighter result.

Sift flour and other stated ingredients together to mix, add air and make them easier to fold in. A large balloon whisk (used gently) is best for folding as it helps to avoid lumps of flour but doesn’t overwork the mixture. Don’t be tempted to whisk vigorously as this will knock out the air and result in a heavy cake.

7. Once the cake mixture is made put it straight into the oven

The raising agent will start working as soon as it comes into contact with any of the ‘wet’ ingredients so to ensure a good rise your cake mixture should go into the oven straightaway.

8. Put the cake on the correct shelf and keep the oven door closed 

Cakes are generally best placed on the middle shelf to ensure even cooking.

Once the cake is in, avoid opening the door until it’s almost cooked. If you allow cold air into the oven the cake is likely to collapse, you need to wait until it’s properly set before taking a peek. Similarly, when you’re putting the cake into the oven, don’t hang about and let all the heat out.

Checking cake9. Stick to cooking times

If you’ve used the right tin and you’ve got a good oven, the timings stated in the recipe should be accurate. As ovens do vary, check the cake just before the end of the cooking time. A cake that is cooked through should feel the same if pressed around the edges or in the middle. Also, a skewer inserted in the centre should come out dry. If your cake is not properly cooked but looking brown, you can cover it with a bit of dampened greaseproof paper.

10. Cooling cakes 

Recipes will usually give instructions for cooling but as a general rule, most sponge cakes are best left for a few minutes and then turned onto a cooling rack to avoid soggy edges. Rich fruit cakes are better cooled in the tin.

Source: https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/howto/guide/how-make-cake-top-10-tips-success